What happens when you mistake safety for your destiny?
How often do you find yourself having the conversation inside your head that sounds a little like you're trying to convince yourself that you’ve got it really good. Or maybe it sounds a lot like you’re trying to convince yourself that you’re happy. But something just doesn’t feel right.
It goes something like this….
I’ve got a great job and it pays well, I’m lucky that I even have a job when so many others are unable to find employment. But sometimes it's a struggle to get up in the morning and go to work.
And sometimes I wish I could close the door to my office or crawl under my desk in my cubicle and curl up in a ball until the day is over. Sometimes I wonder what I actually do for the last three hours of the day?
Watching the clock, knowing that tomorrow will be the same, there will never be an end to the work, and I can’t remember the last time I got excited about an assignment. I plan my life according to how many vacation days I can afford to use to go visit my family AND actually take a real vacation.
When was the last time I took a real vacation?
He’s not a bad guy and we’ve been together so long, I wouldn’t know who I am without him. We’re good friends. That’s enough. Besides I’d miss his family.
I made a commitment and I promised myself I’d never get divorced. I don’t want to be embarrassed going through some messy break up.
I like that everyone thinks we’re the perfect couple. But we’re not. We’re far from perfect. In fact I’m not even sure we’re a couple. Maybe this is as good as it gets? I should just be happy I’m not alone.
But I feel like I am alone, most of the time. If only he understood me better. I wish he would try just a little more.
I feel like I’m the only one working on this relationship. Is he happy? Maybe this is my fault, maybe I’m the only one who can’t be happy?
Maybe some day. But when? I'm saving up for retirement. And well I'm still paying off that last vacation I took. I need to buy a new lawn mower, and make that car payment. What if I have to pay for car repairs?
Only 6 more months to Christmas, which means I’m 4 months away from beginning to buy presents. Man time flies, I feel like I just paid off last years presents, and that party dress I wore to that New Year's Eve party.
Why don’t I start planning earlier for these expenses?
Maybe I’ll put that vacation off till next year, you know I can start planning for it now and that seems really responsible.
How many years am I going to spend doing the same thing I do every year?
How many years has it been? I think I’m getting old.
Yeah, I guess this is what happens when you get old.
You work, you plan for retirement, you save up your vacation days, you live the same day over and over again.
You try to convince yourself that you’ve got it good, that you’re happy, and you’re fortunate.
And YOU are. But you’ve got this nagging sensation that you’re meant for something more. And something tells you that a raise just isn’t gonna cut it.
If you only KNEW what it was? If you only knew what you’re supposed to do you’d be doing it.
Does any of this sound familiar? If you’re still reading this, I imagine some of it is hitting home.
If I knew what I was supposed to be doing, I’d be doing it! In the meantime, I’m gonna keep doing what I’m doing cause it's not so bad.
But this isn’t how it works. Unless you’re one of the lucky ones, that was born knowing exactly who you wanted to be when you grow up.
I’ve always envied those people, those people who just always seem to know what the next step is. But that’s not the case for the majority of us.
We’ve never asked ourselves who am I?
What do I like to do?
We’ve never spent time really exploring this.
When we do find something we think we like and then end up feeling dissatisfied, we spend a lot of time making ourselves wrong, convincing ourselves this is as good as it gets, or being afraid to change our minds, because at least the known is safe.
But that's not the way it has to go...
The only risks we regret in life, are the ones we don't have the guts to take.
Here's to your miraculous unraveling.
Make a sincere commitment to creating a magnificent life, and focus your attention and energy to deeply connect to your true source, then watch as miracles start to happen.
Begin by making this statement to yourself. Write it down, say it out loud, take time each day to feel into this statement:
I, __________, commit to creating a magnificent life, measured by my own chosen standards.
- Start clearing beliefs that aren’t yours
- Spend time discovering your own beliefs
- Take action to implement your own beliefs
- Watch for miracles in your life