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What Happens When You Give Up?

Be who you want, Healing, Learning to Love YourselfChloë Rain
Who do I become if I deny where I came from?

We have all met those kinds of people, the empty shell people. They seem normal enough, but there is something missing. You wonder what happened to them?

You wonder what made them stop trying? Or maybe they gave up on something important or gave up on a dream? You wonder when they lost that thing, that spark, that drive, but you know somewhere along the line they gave up.

Maybe, they started telling themselves that story about how life doesn’t work out for them. And once they started telling themselves that story, they’ve never been the same ever since.

After a few disappointments and regrets, it's natural to start telling ourselves that story. After a lot of disappointments and failures its natural to give up on that thing you've been trying to make happen in your life. You begin to fear that you don’t have what it takes and you tell yourself that this is as good as its ever going to get.

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.
— Nelson Mandela

Maybe you give up on yourself in some small way and you tell yourself its no big deal. Or you decide to give up on finding real love, you tell yourself relationships are hard and people suck.

You give up on ever feeling fulfilled or figuring out what it is you really want to do with your life, because so far everything you’ve tried ends up falling short. It seems that thing you've been wanting for so long will always be just outside your grasp, and it begins to feel like mission impossible to have, achieve, receive, or be content. 

Most of us never bridge the gap between the life we aspire to lead and the life we are currently living.

We get caught up in that story we keep telling ourselves. Most of us get stuck in the gap because there is a huge gravitational pull to the familiar and we don’t realize that giving up, isn't just a one time choice, it's a choice we continue to make over and over again every time we tell ourselves that story.

I’d spent most of my adult life seeking my fortune, trying make something of myself, and get as far away as possible from my humble beginnings and the small town I had grown up in. And I guess I’d managed to do that considering I was living in about 2,780 miles away from the place I was born and my seemingly perfect urban life was a far cry from my rural roots.

Then one day there is a wake up call and I look around and everything seems to be a little less like what I thought, there is a luster to life that’s missing. And I wondered what happened?

Then returning to that place I had left behind, after seeking myself for so many years, I come to find out that the thing I was seeking was there all along, buried deep inside, in that place I had locked away after all those disappointments and regrets.

As adults, we learn to protect ourselves, emotionally, by giving up. We keep ourselves safe by denying that impulse within that is urging us to keep going and keep hoping long after we should have given up.

But life has a funny way of bringing us back to our roots and reminding us of where we came from and who we dreamed we’d be some day. Life always seems to come full circle, its as much as cliché as it is an evident truth.

The stories that unfold in our lives have such intricate and subtle beauty if we allow ourselves to open to the experience of living instead of judging ourselves based on where we think we should be or who we think we should be in our lives.

The more I have surrendered to the ebb and flow of my life, and let go of the need to know why things happen the way that they do…. the more meaning and purpose has been revealed to me in the unfolding of things.

Perhaps this is the greatest human experience, to learn to trust that by following your heart and remaining open, you will receive everything you need, and become everything you were always meant to be.

The experience of fulfillment, of finding yourself, and experiencing your dreams coming true, isn't about getting what you want, it is in learning to love who you are, and what you’ve got and where you are, right here, right now without having to go, do, or be anything else. 

Sometimes your idea of who you should be gets in the way of who you really are.
— Chloë Rain

So often, people feel like "there's got to be more to life..."

Maybe it feels like you’re missing out on your potential in life, career, or maybe you haven’t found the right partner in love… 

You need to know that your life purpose exists and who you are serves a greater purpose in this world. 

How do I know about this? 

...from my unique challenges in life, starting from when I almost died in an accident, then later was diagnosed with a debilitating auto-immune disease, and risked every thing I had ever created in order to recover my health and ultimately my happiness. 

I learned teachable techniques that helped me to grow a successful business which serves people around the world, and live a life filled with love, purpose, adventure, and miracles.  

The same techniques I've used to create a life worth living, I have taught to many people who have then become successful in life, love, and career; creative entrepreneurs and award winning artists, and I'd like to teach you how to start finding and restoring your life purpose too. I can promise that you will never look at life the same way again.

Whether you are considering making a life transition and don't know where to begin, or stuck in the same self-defeating patterns year after year, life coaching offers unparalleled results in creating lasting transformation.

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