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The Law of the Twinkie: Spiritual Enlightenment & Personal Freedom

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You eat Twinkies and you know they're not good for you, deep down inside you know.....

But you like eating twinkies and so you stay for a while in a state of confusion. You eat twinkies all the time. You think you love twinkies, twinkies make you feel satiated.

But deep down inside you know, something's not right.

One day you're feeling particularly bad about your eating of the Twinkies and so you start to get curious.

You educate yourself on nutrition and you are aware that the combination of flour and sugar has no nutritional value and is high in calories, but you still eat the twinkies.

Then doing more research you become aware that in fact there are worse ingredients in the Twinkies and that you like to numb yourself by eating the twinkies and you feel addicted to the twinkies. But you still eat the Twinkies.

Then you become aware that you numb yourself with food and you feel out of control of your craving because there is an emotional response trigger to not feeling comfortable in your body, so you eat to numb yourself and feel shame around your eating.

But you still eat the twinkies. Then you become aware that you started eating to numb yourself because you were violated as a child and it wasn't safe or comfortable to be in your body, so over eating protects you from being seen, protects you from being violated, numbs you from feeling the emotions in your body.  

Now every time you go to eat the twinkie you have a new insight about the choice you are making and you start to realize that it's really not about the twinkie, it's about how you feel inside your body and what emotions are attached to eating.

From this awareness, you can realize that the twinkie does not have power over you, the twinkie is not smarter than you, and you know that really what is occurring is an emotional trigger that you don't feel safe, you don't want to be seen, and you want to numb out in your body.  

From this place of awareness, you may still eat the twinkie.... the more you do the work the more clearing of the emotional trigger, the less and less the twinkie has power over your choices.

Then one day, it hits you. You no longer want the twinkie. You want to like yourself and feel good in your body. You start making different choices. You start to see the benefits of eating things that make you feel good about your choices instead of the twinkies, one day you even realize you enjoy eating things that make you feel good more than you have ever enjoyed eating twinkies.

Twinkies don’t totally disappear from your life, and every time you come up against the Twinkie you have to make the choice.
— The Law of the Twinkie

You start to feel better in your body. One choice at at time, you start to feel better. If one day you eat the twinkie, ok, no big deal, next time you have the opportunity to make an entirely new and fresh choice.

The key is that the twinkie no longer rules your life and your every decision. You are in control of your choices.

You start to trust yourself. 

Then One Day you realize many days have passed since you even thought of Twinkies, and you laugh at how silly and insignificant the Twinkie really is, and how powerful you have become.

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Awareness is the key to making a different choice. Having awareness is 90% of what is needed to make changes. It is what you do with the awareness is what makes the difference.
Chloë Rain is the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

She has had the pleasure of mentoring women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to their own guidance, and experience greater love and fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and joy in their lives.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

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How the Practice of Loving Kindness Will Change Your Life

Inspiring, Travel, Health Mind Happy SoulChloë Rain1 Comment
How Loving Kindness Can Change Your Life
You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.
— Rumi

When I left Seattle, my exit was abrupt and overshadowed by a breakup — it had felt like fleeing under the cover of night and a dark cloud of shame — for a long time a part of me held onto an idea that I'd return shortly and resume my beautiful life there.

My heart ached for the energy of the place and the spirit of the mountains that had permeated my soul and had become part of the life force that nourishes and sustains me. It was as if my soul and my body longed for the connection with those mountains and the places that had been integral to my healing and my heart opening.

On my way back to the east coast, I had spent most of my cross country flight crying and writing in my journal. I was feeling sadness, yes, but mainly deep gladness and deeper gratefulness for my life experience and all the people who had graced my path and relationships that had changed me at depth.

The city, the lush green and the deep waters that had healed me, soothed me, and taught me things about myself I hadn't known.

I said goodbye, I had understood that something else was pulling me forward into the future, the next big adventure....

I was grieving and simultaneously grateful, attempting to resist the reaction to cling to the past and beg for things to be different than they are.


We flew into bad weather as we neared the east coast and I arrived in the Charlotte airport only minutes after the last plane had departed that could take me to the rural airport near my birth home. It was almost 11pm and I feared spending the night in the airport after a very emotional day of crying and grieving.

Several hundred passengers had been grounded or had missed their connecting flights because of bad weather.  The mob quickly began to swarm and anger pulsed through the crowded airport. I quickly turned my awareness from my own sadness to the swelling anger of the crowd and as the passengers' complaints began to get louder, I began to practice loving kindness.

I connect to Source, fill up my energy field, and then radiate love from the core of my being through mindfulness and detached intention.

I use the practice of loving kindness or Metta daily. On normal days, on lonely days, on days I feel great, sometimes all day, throughout the day, and in stressful situations it has an especially positive effect on the external circumstances around you.

The practice of loving kindness is the tool I use to release worry, self-doubt, and it is how I learned to heal myself from decades of depression.

As the aggravation levels skyrocketed I blasted feel good rock and roll in my ear buds drowning out the sounds around me and radiating as much love as my tender heart could muster into the crowds.

Arriving at the USAirways re-ticketing counter I spoke softly to the lady at the counter, sending her compassion from my heart. She quickly handed me a voucher for the nights stay, rebooked my flight for the next day and ushered me to the shuttle to the Woodlawn Courtyard. I silently blessed her and then thanked her warmly out loud as the next customer approached her irately complaining "how unacceptable everything was".

After a smooth shuttle ride to the Courtyard, I shuddered thinking of how many Courtyards across the United States I had helped renovate in my previous life as a project manager for hotel development. Walking into the very familiar surroundings, I recognized the layout, the furniture, down to the carpet and fabric scheme, the pictures on the wall and even laughed out loud recognizing that it was the "yellow flowers theme" and recalling with humor what a pain-in-the ass that wall mural is to install correctly.

I was greeted at the front desk by the manager, Stacey, it was well after midnight, and when she asked me how I was doing? I responded honestly, that I was feeling very human, heart broken, and that today had been an emotional day, with an unexpected nights stay in Charlotte.

Then Stacey came out from behind the desk and gave me a hug. Tears came to my eyes, because of her sincere desire to comfort me and my ability to receive this kindness from a perfect stranger.

I hadn't eaten all day, and as I retrieved a frozen dinner from the Courtyard food market, Stacey waived me through and gifted me my dinner and a bottle of wine saying "You're all taken care of my dear".

I hugged her a second time and sent blessings of love to her, her family, everyone she encountered, and to Courtyard Marriot of all things!


I have laughed many times thinking of how different my life has become and of the person I used to be. In all of my professional glory and fierce personal boundaries, I would never in a million years have been able to hug the manager at the Courtyard front desk and shed tears of gratitude, while feeling my own raw and open heart.

I am grateful for the practice of loving kindness and for the person that I have become through this practice. 

I am grateful for the depth of emotion that I feel on a daily basis and the ability to shed tears while blessing the human race and all those suffering and in heartache.

I am home now in my heart.

A little loving kindness and human compassion can go a long way.

A little love and kindness could just save the world.

Here is an easy introduction to the practice of loving kindness, a prayer for you:

The Love & Light Prayer   

Love & Light
Love & Light
I Send Love & Light

Love & Light
Love & Light
I Speak Love & Light

Love & Light
Love & Light
I Breathe Love & Light

Love & Light
Love & Light
I AM Love & Light

Love & Light
Love & Light
I Radiate Love & Light

May all your adventures unfold perfectly before your eyes in ways you could never have imagined, may you make friends along the way that surprise and change you at depth, like coming home, but not to a home you’ve ever known before. When the next adventure comes to usher you forward may you be full and happy, having enjoyed every experience as if your life was a great feast and you got drunk on the punch and ate too much food the for the soul.....
— Chloë Rain

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The Philosophy and Practice of Universal Love: Metta

The Pali word metta is a multi-significant term meaning loving-kindness, friendliness, goodwill, benevolence, fellowship, amity, concord, inoffensiveness and non-violence. The Pali commentators define metta as the strong wish for the welfare and happiness of others (parahita-parasukha-kamana).

Essentially metta is an altruistic attitude of love and friendliness as distinguished from mere amiability based on self-interest. Through metta one refuses to be offensive and renounces bitterness, resentment and animosity of every kind, developing instead a mind of friendliness, accommodativeness and benevolence which seeks the well-being and happiness of others.

True metta is devoid of self-interest. It evokes within a warm-hearted feeling of fellowship, sympathy and love, which grows boundless with practice and overcomes all social, religious, racial, political and economic barriers. Metta is indeed a universal, unselfish and all-embracing love.
— Acharya Buddharakkhita
Chloë Rain is the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

She has had the pleasure of mentoring women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to their own guidance, and experience greater love and fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and joy in their lives.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

Please feel free to share content freely from Explore Deeply™. However, please be courteous and link back to the original post, and credit Explore Deeply as well as the writer where applicable. I hope you find many resources here to serve you as you walk your path of purpose.