The Reason to have a Secret Life

you’ve just made love and feel you’d rather have been in a dark booth where your partner was nodding, whispering yes, yes, you’re brilliant.

A Secret Life

Why you need to have one
is not much more mysterious than
why you don’t say what you think
at the birth of an ugly baby.
Or, you’ve just made love
and feel you’d rather have been
in a dark booth where your partner
was nodding, whispering yes, yes,
you’re brilliant. The secret life
begins early, is kept alive
by all that’s unpopular
in you, all that you know
a Baptist, say, or some other
accountant would object to.
It becomes what you’d most protect
if the government said you can protect
one thing, all else is ours.
When you write late at night
it’s like a small fire
in a clearing, it’s what
radiates and what can hurt
if you get too close to it.
It’s why your silence is a kind of truth.
Even when you speak to your best friend,
the one who’ll never betray you,
you always leave out one thing;
a secret life is that important.

— Stephen Dunn

 
Chloë Rain

Chloë Rain is a spiritual director and ceremonial guide whose work is rooted in the initiatory cycles of nature and the deep intelligence of living earth traditions. After more than a decade of apprenticeship within North and South American medicine lineages — and graduate research in the Arctic Circle exploring sacred landscape and Indigenous cosmology through a Master’s degree in Indigenous Studies — her work now continues from a small island in the Cyclades in the heart of the Aegean Sea.

She offers one-to-one spiritual direction and private retreats for those navigating profound change, life transitions, and soul alignment.


Learn more about → private spiritual direction
or explore retreats → seasonal ceremonial work.

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