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Being Strong, is Not When the Breakthrough Happens

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I had thought to myself, when I crawled into bed sobbing... 

"I'm not going to say anything about this to anyone, it's best that I spend time to figure this out myself, and then once I have the insight, I will share and talk about it."

I was about to go into an intense three days of sacred ceremony and Shamanic trainings. The following morning, I was to prepare for my ceremony with Maestro Jaime and be in sacred ceremony the entire day. Then we would travel to the remote village of Amaru to visit with Maestro Jesus and his family.

But in the morning, when my friend, greeted me with her smiles and cheery disposition with sunshine beaming out of her eyeballs, I sat down on the steps and started to cry, uncontrollably.

Having been labeled early in my life, and then rejected multiple times throughout the years as "being too sensitive", I had in the not so distant past, prided myself on not being one to cry in front of other people, or at all.

I think I'm very strong and very smart.

I had worn my independence like a proud badge of honor on the uniform of my single adult life.

I had devoured books and trainings on the human spirit, the psychology of happiness, and attempted to stay informed of the cutting edge of epigenetics, quantum physics, and molecular biology.

I have had a consistent and meaty daily spiritual practice for over a decade. And I still break down into a blubbering mess of snot, tears, and shame for my "weaknesses". 

And in those moments, I don't want anyone to know.

And I tell myself in my most rational internal 'get your shit together' voice that "I am stronger than this."

"I am smarter than this."

"I'm better than this."


I have learned that "BEING STRONG" is not when the BREAKTHROUGH happens.

Most times, the thing that we're using to keep us "safe" is the thing that is in the way of receiving what we are so deeply longing for in our lives... Call it a defense mechanism, call it a "very smart" way of thinking, call it an "unconscious mental process" to avoid conscious conflict, or an automatic response to prevent us from "feeling that unwanted feeling", or a repression of emotion in order to keep us feeling "in control" and.....

I'll share a beautiful fact of being human....When you have the breakthrough, it's not because you're being strong or smart, its because you are being vulnerable.

That "very strong" "very smart" thing you do.... could actually be the thing that's in your way of having what you want, or BE-ing who you want to be, and blocking you from having a different experience in your life.

When I broke down into my ugly cry in front of my friend, and then we went together to meet with Maestro Jamie, she translated to him my three intentions of what I wanted to receive in becoming ceremony. 

I shared some things I really didn't want to have to tell anyone.

Why would I do that?

Because, I wanted to be done with my "very strong, very smart" way of being that had not gotten me even close to where I wanted to be. I wanted to move beyond my false strength into a more expansive way of being that did not involve any of the walls, barriers, and blocks that had kept me very safe, but not very happy.

In becoming ceremony, it was asked of me to become curious like a child.  

When I drop the guise that I know all of the answers before I ask the questions, I am shown the doorway to the experience that I have been so deeply desiring in my life.

And although I don't always know how it unfolds from that moment, I know that in allowing myself to be seen and vulnerable and by revealing my "weaknesses" and dropping the need to be strong in all moments...

I am healed.

I am strong.

I am fulfilled.


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Join me on a Spiritual Pilgrimage to Machu Picchu Peru

Spaces are limited, includes sacred ceremonies with Indigenous Shamans, and pilgrimage to Machu Picchu

Maestro Jesus brought us to this very special "look out" and mountaintop where he burns the offerings for the people who come to him for healing illness to broken hearts and prayers for abundance and new jobs. He took a nap as Jessica and I offered prayers.

On top of the mountain with Peter & Jessica, Maestro Jesus and his grandson in the Sacred Valley, community of Amaru.

Amaru, Sacred Valley of the Inca, Cusco Peru

Maestro Jesus, 80 year old Atamesayok Shaman, from Amaru. He was "called" to his work by being struck by lightening three times in his youth. He does healing ceremonies for people from all over the world, and brought us to the mountaintop where he burns the offerings for their prayers.

Climbing to the top of the mountain, 80 year old Maestro Jesus is in the lead and kicking our asses. :)

Ancient sacrificial or offering cave on the side of the cliff on the mountaintop of Amaru. Maestro Jesus told us that the area was declared an archeological site and prevented him from building his "hotel". He also mentioned that 3 human skulls had been removed from this cave by Archeologists. It was unclear if the bones in the cave were ancient or new offerings from post Inca inhabitants.

Chloë Rain is the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

She has had the pleasure of mentoring women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to their own guidance, and experience greater love and fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and joy in their lives.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

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