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Are You Looking For a Sign?

Be who you want, Guest Writer, Life LessonsHelen Avery
Looking for a sign : Explore Deeply Chloe Rain

How Do We Find Our Purpose?

Many of us spend years looking for signs to answer: What is my purpose? But perhaps it’s time to change the question.

Last week I saw a sign hanging on a wall in a coffee shop, it read: If you’re looking for a sign, this is it.

Signs like this cause chaos for me, because I take signs seriously. I have spent some 30 years looking for signs to answer the big questions: What is my purpose? What is my calling? What am I supposed to do here?

So does this sign in the coffee shop mean I am to stop looking for signs? Or does it mean that this is the coffee shop I am supposed to work in? …Could it be my purpose has something to do with sign making?

I once thought I was receiving a sign from angels as feathers rained down on my head while waiting for a bus—only to look up and see a hawk in a tree, shredding a pigeon to death. Was that a sign I should work with pigeons?

The Sign-Searchers

The mind is designed to make meaning. Which means if you are a person who looks for signs—such as myself—you will soon begin to see them everywhere.

There are traits we may share in addition to this constant sign-searching:

  • We likely own a dozen domain names from paths we thought we might take, but can’t bring ourselves to shelve just yet.
  • We’re open to learning to find our purpose, and therefore have several unusual and disconnected certifications under our belt.
  • We may have half-started at least three business ideas but never really ran with any.
  • We ebb and flow between feeling inspired, and then lost or unsettled.
  • We wonder if our lives would be easier if we didn’t believe there was some “grand plan” we were a part of with a role we’re supposed to fulfill.

Rephrasing the Question

Recently I have begun to see an end in sight of the search for my purpose. I haven’t found my purpose, but rather I have started to wonder if perhaps there isn’t a “my purpose” after all. Perhaps instead there is simply “the purpose.” Because if we believe we have a purpose and that it is to serve the world in some way, then we must also believe that we are all connected—that serving others is important for our own wellbeing and the wellbeing of others.

Therefore, when we start to look for our purpose, we are essentially saying we believe—on some level—that we are all one. And if we are all one, then it stands to reason that we cannot possibly each have a unique purpose we are here for—rather we are all simply serving one purpose.

With this view of removing the “I” and the “my,” all the questions we ask ourselves in an attempt to uncover our purpose result in entirely different answers. There is no longer a judgment taking place or pressure on ourselves to do or be something or someone. We stop pushing and start receiving. We align with the universe.

What do you enjoy?

What is it that makes your heart sing? What did you want to be when you “grew up”? What did you spend your childhood doing? What do you get so engrossed in that you forget to eat? These questions provide clues as to how purpose wants to express itself through you. The clues may not be exact. When I was a child I wanted to be a famous novelist, an English teacher, and a nun. I’m none of these, but the things that have stayed with me through my life—and the things I lose myself in—are my love of writing, learning, sharing, and practicing devotion.

Why is this line of questioning helpful? Because as children—and when we’re completely immersed in something we love—we are not judging whether what we enjoy is noble or not, nor are we thinking about whether we are any good at it. We are just wholly tuned in to our expression of joy.

Without the judging mind we can also let go of our definition of happiness. Parenting may be extremely difficult, but you may also really enjoy it. Running a business is challenging, but you may love it. Writing, painting, dancing, making music, problem solving, running, yoga—all can be incredibly frustrating, but may still be something you consistently return to because you couldn’t not.

What are you good at?

The things we enjoy tend to be the things we are good at—or at least the things we are happy to practice and become good at. But what does “good” even mean? Too often we hold ourselves back from doing things because we set our standards too high. Do we have to be a prolific writer in order to have a purpose writing? When we remove the judging mind, we know the true answer is no. Do we have to run an internationally-recognized nonprofit to serve a purpose of social justice? No, again.

Often when we are thinking about a purpose, our mind tells us we must change the lives of millions, or write a book that inspires a nation, or create a product that can save the planet. And there are people who indeed we can look at as proof that this is possible. But who is to say what has more value—a charity that touches millions, or a pamphlet read by a few people? If we are all one, there is no “more/less value.” When we think our purpose has to be of a certain standard or reach, then we prevent ourselves from accomplishing what the universe may want us to do.

What serves the world?

This question is the key to finding an end to our search for “my” purpose.

When we think about serving the world we automatically consider what the world needs from our own perspective. We may have realized that we enjoy gardening and are good at it, so we may look around our neighborhood and think: Everyone needs to learn how to garden. So we buy the domain name and hang up a shingle, only to find after months of marketing that just two people are interested. Or we find a cause to get behind and make it our mission to tell everyone about it—but never really get much support. We’ve experienced this in our lives: This feeling of working against gravity. We end up drained.

This may be a step along your journey, and if it makes your heart sing, do it. But the point is: What we think others need is not always what they need. And even if it seems to be what the world needs, we may be of better use elsewhere. But how can we, with our mind full of judgment and limits, honestly say what the world needs from us?

When we start to view ourselves not as having my purpose, but rather as serving the purpose, then everything begins to change. Rather than searching for signs to uncover what we enjoy and what we are good at, and then trying to work out what the world needs, we simply make ourselves available for the purpose to move through us. We open ourselves up.

How can we, with our mind full of judgment and separation and limits, honestly say what the world needs from us?

Our minds may never comprehend what “the purpose” is. And to be honest, it’s almost a relief to no longer have to think about it. We may have an inkling. Perhaps it is an infinite creative process. Or maybe there is no purpose at all and the universe is simply love creating love. It all becomes too esoteric to put into words.

All we have to do is be still and breathe deeply, and instead of asking: What is my purpose? Simply say: I’m ready and open to be put to use—however that arises.

We may find this a challenge initially. We are often people who want to give to the world, and receiving is not where we naturally reside. And we may not end up doing what we had once imagined—there could well be one more domain name in our future—but we can trust it.

Because if our inkling is correct—that the purpose has love at its core—then we will only be guided and moved to do the things we enjoy, and the things we will be successful at. Because a loving universe would not make anyone suffer in order to express itself. When we give up the idea of “my” purpose, we can start to live the trifecta of doing what we enjoy, what we’re good at, and serving the world—rather than constantly thinking about it. Then we know, at all times, that we are living our life with purpose. The search is over.

So, if you’re looking for a sign—maybe this is it.


Helen Avery

Journalist | Teacher | Minister

Helen Avery is a journalist, writer, yoga teacher, & Awakening Together Minister, living in New York City. This article was origially posted on Wanderlust.com where Helen is a Section Editor working on the Vitality & Wisdom channels.
 
"Asana. meditation, reading and writing - for me, these all are gifts that enable me to learn and practice what it means to live from my heart. They help me to remember in all moments, outside of solitude, that there is only love."


Chloë Rain is the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

She has had the pleasure of mentoring women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to their own guidance, and experience greater love and fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and joy in their lives.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

Please feel free to share content freely from Explore Deeply™. However, please be courteous and link back to the original post, and credit Explore Deeply as well as the writer where applicable. I hope you find many resources here to serve you as you walk your path of purpose.

The Luna Moth & The Full Moon, the Spiritual Significance of Signs that Appear in our Lives

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Sacred Fire Ceremony, releasing old attachments, past loves, and clearing debts.

Every day this week on my meditative walk I have found the wings of a different butterfly.

Upon walking the path to the waterfall, I came across the wings of a Luna Moth.

The Luna Moth may be considered one of the most spiritual and mystical of Spirit Guides.

To meet one is a special gift, for when she is in her adult moth stage she only lives for approximately one week. While living through their adult moth life they do not eat, for they have no mouth. One might say that their purpose is to reproduce, but I say it is to Love.

They are born, they transform, they love, they die, and then are again reborn. Their cycles are short, as are our years while we are here. We are reminded to make the most of our moments and to live and love to the fullest.

She is most often seen in the evenings, attracted to the moon and to light.

She speaks of our connection to the Feminine, our inner spirit, and our trust in ourselves.

We learn of the importance to find the balance between light and dark, the seen and the unseen. She is a reminder that when all is said and done, our healing and sense of love are the ultimate journey.

I was in the middle of a full day of intense sessions and there was so much emotion and energy being channelled I could not pause long enough to fully integrate the significance of its message.

As the moon had recently came into fullness I became fire ceremony, closing the 21 day ritual for emotional detox, burning the energetic ties of indebtedness.

My personal emotions have been flowing strong and wild on an intense upward spiral, each day I have met myself with new fury of release of old patterns of emotional demons that have held me in the darkness in certain areas of my life.

I can feel the old patterning almost as if being ripped from inside my cells, and just like the fire burning hot and white, rapidly transforming within.

The Butterfly and its metamorphosis is the Spiritual Metaphor for our own transformation. Much like the caterpillar's metamorphosis into the butterfly we may at times feel like our guts are being ripped apart and turned to mush right before our eyes.

The butterfly is also the spiritual symbol of the Divine Feminine and her transcendence, from the caterpillar's perspective can feel like a death rather than a transformation, and yet the butterfly gracefully emerges, whole, complete, beautiful, and free. We must set aside everything we once knew and understood about our world and fully embody an entirely new way of being in the world. 

The releasing of our past patterning and attachments can very much feel like we are being torn apart from the inside, a painful death of our very comfortable caterpillar body, we were used to crawling on the ground and eating our way through our emotions. 

Then on the other side of this confusing and gut wrenching loss of self, we emerge with wet wings, no longer do we crawl, our legs have been transformed, and we fly, almost effortlessly, to sip nectar from the blossoms of flowers.

The ascension process of our Highest Self.

You must surrender completely and trust that some intelligence higher than yourself is guiding you through this process into complete rebirth and freedom.

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Luna Moth Oracle: Protection and Guidance from the Highest Wisdom. Face your limitations as this is a time of rebirth and limitlessness, open yourself to abundance and favorable outcomes and know you are greatly protected in all activities. 

Luna moths also signify new beginnings as they represent a continuing quest for truth and knowledge, the gift of intuition, psychic perception and heightened awareness. Things that are associated with “seeing the light”.

So often, people feel like "there's got to be more to life..."

Maybe it feels like you’re missing out on your potential in life, you feel a deep longing within, but you're not sure what it means or where to begin...

You need to know that your life has meaning and who you are serves a greater purpose in this world. 

How do I know about this? 

...from my unique challenges in life, starting from when I almost died in an accident, then later was diagnosed with a debilitating auto-immune disease, that partially paralyzed my right arm. I took my health and my future into my own hands and risked everything I had ever created in order to recover my health and ultimately my happiness. 

I learned teachable techniques that helped me to grow a meaningful healing practice that serves people around the world, and live a life filled with love, purpose, and adventure.  

The same techniques I've used to create a life worth living, I have taught to many people who have then gone on to feel purpose and prosperity in their daily lives. I'd like to teach you how to start restoring your life purpose too. 

I can promise that you will never look at life the same way again.

Whether you are considering making a life transition and don't know where to begin, or stuck in the same self-defeating patterns year after year, Walking the Path of Purpose Apprenticeship offers shamanic healing techniques, earth-based wisdom and an unparalleled framework for creating lasting and meaningful transformation.

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Everyone has a purpose. Do you know yours?


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Full Moon Cycles and their meaning

The Full Moon:  A time to connect with the ancient wisdoms of the Earth and see into light within the darkness…

Learning to navigate your experiences in a new way, without fear, without shame is how you will create what it is you so deeply crave.

The Cycles of the Moon:

The New Moon marks the beginning of the cycle and the Full Moon is the completion.

At the Full Moon, the energy is powerful and intense. This surge enables you to take action – especially in regards to the New Moon intentions you may have made. This is a perfect time for releasing something that no longer serves you; or letting go of something that you no longer need in your life; or an opportunity to let go of an aspect of yourself that you have outgrown.

New Moon (or Dark Moon): A new cycle. An energy of new possibilities. Time to set your intentions for what you want to bring into your life.

Waxing Moon: New growth, continued action, results will come about

Full Moon: High tide of power, amplifying and creative. It is a time to release that which no longer serves you, what you no longer need in your life or an aspect of yourself that you have outgrown.

Waning Moon: Withdrawing, pulling energy

Dark Moon: A time to go within. Solitude. A powerful psychic time where revelations from deep within can emerge. It’s important to make space for the unfolding of spirit at this time in preparation for the new cycle and beginning.


Chloë Rain is the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

She has had the pleasure of mentoring women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to their own guidance, and experience greater love and fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and joy in their lives.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

Please feel free to share content freely from Explore Deeply™. However, please be courteous and link back to the original post, and credit Explore Deeply as well as the writer where applicable. I hope you find many resources here to serve you as you walk your path of purpose.