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Change or Die : The Surprising Effects of Unplugging from the Matrix

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Change Or Die : The Surprising Effects of Unplugging from the Matrix
To deny our own impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human.
— Mouse

For those of us secretly wishing to live extraordinary lives....

I, in my button down shirt and grey business suit, found myself shuffling my computer bag, in the lines of other business travelers at the airport, waiting to identified, then validated, so we could stand in another line to get on board. 

We were all going some place important.

I was asked for my credentials to stand in the "premium line" at the airport...... Which I had earned. A strange badge of honor, on any other day, I may have been offended.

"Don't you know how hard I have worked for this?"

But today was different. It was the day after I gave my resignation. I had sent an email to the president of the company. It was very simple. After all that worry, fear, and self-doubt, it had become very simple:

I must change, or I will die.

The email read:

"It has become clear to me that I must resign."

The response that was received, minutes later. "As you wish".  

My career. That was it.  My career was over, and punctuated with a philosophical comment from the movie the Princess Bride?!

I didn't see it coming..... Even though I had resigned I was still standing in line at the airport, dragging my computer bag with all the other business travelers. Waiting for permission to leave.

I felt like I was in the Matrix and I was decoding it before my eyes. I could see all of us lining up in our grey business suits, waiting for validation at the "premium line" at the airport.  

All of us caged in our inner dialogues. We were secretly wishing to be living extraordinary lives, trapped inside our "should" programming, doing what we are supposed to be doing.  

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
— LAO-TZU

And then what happened, I couldn't have expected it. 

JOY poured in... Joy rushed over my body like submerging myself in a warm bath. 

AND then you'll never believe it! LOVE rushed in, LOVE FOR MY FELLOW HUMANS.  LOVE..... 

I felt a deep well of compassion for everyone who has been secretly wishing for something extraordinary, secretly hoping there was more to life than what appeared... 

We had been traveling somewhere important for years. But we had never arrived? How could that be possible?

Was that some strange glitch in the Matrix, meant to keep us looped in the same experience year after year.  So many of us caged.

Lovers, dreamers, poets, creatives, healers, kissers, huggers, partners, friends.... 

The Secret Clan, longing to be fully expressed in our lives, living in freedom and fully impassioned.

I knew:

THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING.

There is a purpose for being alive, and a damn good reason to get out of bed in the morning.

You've been looking for you, your entire life. 

Don't give up the search.


Have you ever had a dream, Neo, that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to wake from that dream? How would you know the difference between the dream world and the real world?
— Morpheus

A few years ago, when I was seeking for the Answer behind the Matrix, I read this book that utterly changed my life and what I understand about "why change is hard."

Alan Deutschman explicates 3 real life case studies that showed, even when faced with death, 9 out of 10 people could not change their lives, even when their lives depended on it!

This blew me away.

Even when faced with death and given education on how to save one's life, 9 out of 10 people could not manage to change their killing behaviors.

There are five behavioral issues that drive the largest part of the health care costs in the United States:

Too much

smoking,

drinking,

and eating.

Too much stress and not enough exercise. 

The good news?  The studies also showed that when three key elements were met,  people were able to change and create permanent lasting change in their lives.

What was the  #ONE KEY that saved peoples lives?

HOPE.

This portion of the article is excerpted from Change or Die by Alan Deutschman (HarperCollins 2007)

The First Key to Change

RELATE: You form a new, emotional relationship with a person or community that inspires and sustains hope.

If you face a situation that a reasonable person would consider “hopeless,” you need the influence of seemingly “unreasonable” people to restore your hope – to make you believe that you can change and expect that you will change. This is an act of persuasion – really, it’s “selling.” The leader has to sell you on yourself and make you believe that you have the ability to change. They have to sell you on themselves as your partners, mentors, or sources of new knowledge. And they have to sell you on the specific methods or strategies that they employ.

The Second Key to Change

REPEAT: The new relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new habits and skills that you’ll need.

It takes a lot of repetition before new patterns of behavior become automatic and seem natural – until you act the new way without even thinking about it. It helps tremendously to have a good teacher, coach, or mentor to give you guidance, encouragement, and direction along the way. Change doesn’t involve just “selling”; it requires “training.”

The Third Key to Change

REFRAME: The new relationship helps you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and your life.

Ultimately, you look at the world in a way that would have been so foreign to you that it wouldn't have made any sense before you changed.

These are the three keys to change: relate, repeat, and reframe.

New hope, new skills, and new thinking.

We can use them to motivate change in our businesses, our relationships, and our own lives.

Enablers of Change: 

Deutschman discusses some important enablers of change, or rebellion, against our should so that we may follow our must:

  • Our beliefs, formed through repeated experience over time, can usually be reshaped only by experience. Change needs to be experienced and short term wins achieved in order to gain the momentum required to drive more significant and lasting change.
  • A great commitment to change. Meaningful change does not come easily. Be prepared to work in order to accomplish your goals.
  • Don't go it alone. The power of community and culture is needed for permanent lasting change. Invite others into your plans and activities. Leverage their power, knowledge, support and experiences. Involve yourself with those you trust and who can help you achieve change; not those who will hinder you.

So what's stopping you? What change do you hope to see in your life that you can start now? Whatever it is, begin today.

Further reading:

Trinity : Unplugging from the Matrix the Surprising Effects
 

This is still one of my favorite movies of all time. Smile. Wink... though it came out in 1999 and I was graduating college at that time, I watched it recently and the message holds, the inspiration flows, and the ambush scene with Trinity and Neo to save Morpheus is freaking bad ass. IN-JOY!

Chloë Rain is a Spiritual Guide & Visionary. She is the the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

Chloë has had the pleasure of working with women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to self love, and experience greater fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and JOY in their lives, relationships, and finances.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and joy in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

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You know you're done, but you don't know what's next?! You are not alone.

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Connecting with our deeper desires, does not involve knowing the answers to all of our questions, because it's only in not knowing that we can be truly receptive and it's only in being receptive that we can truly discover, learn, and evolve.

When we shift into wonder and curiosity, there is an opening to a deeper wisdom. Our feminine power, is a shift from the masculine energy where not knowing would be seen as weakness or being powerless, to our feminine way of being where wonder and curiosity are the ultimate source of power and strength. 

Are you aware of a deep longing in your heart, and craving for deep connection and intimacy? Have you felt anxious lately, like something is about to burst forth, but you have no idea what to do next? You are not alone, this is the energy at hand in the Universe right now! In sharing our vulnerability, and learning the practice of unknowing and non-attachment to the outcome we are allowing a new possibility of feminine energy and natural flow into our lives.

Most of us, live our lives so disconnected from our internal guidance that when the pull of our hearts becomes so strong and the voice inside has been muffled for so long the feeling that arises within us feels more like a life crisis than an emergence into something more beautiful. 

Its difficult to trust that you will be provided for, that in fact the Universe does have a master plan and included you in this plan and you in fact do play an important role in the Universe.

We do live on Earth after all and are made up of 75% water, so imagine that you are influenced by all the amazing forces at work here in our Universe, even the ones we have yet to understand or have the awareness to see. You experience cycles just like the Earth and the moon, though most of us do not realize how our internal states of being are influenced by the energies at hand. Often we feel confused, restless, stuck, or even powerless to change our mindset and state of being.

Imagine you have internal tides just like the sea.  

The New Moon, just last week, provides us with an opportunity to take the time to create new intentions for ourselves.  This past weekend we experienced the Summer Solstice (June 20-21), physically we are experiencing more *light*  right now and since the beginning of time, our ancestors have marked this period with ritual and celebration. As you know, there are thousands of ancient sites created around solstices and equinoxes that were built to honor our connection to the Sun as the source of our light and life force.

Now is a time of celebrating the fullness of life and of taking the time to raise our energy to regenerate abundance and manifest our dreams, because in the visions of our dreams is the guidance of our Master plan.

Rather than be confronted with an overwhelming proof of the limitations of our understanding, we accuse our dreams of not making sense.
— Erich Fromm

I would invite you to do something symbolic to honor your life in the next few days, perhaps, light a candle and say a blessing for your life and the life force living in your body.  Make a commitment to go within and be silent each day to let your internal guidance know that you are listening and intend to have open lines of communication from here on out. Let your Inner Voice know that she in fact has a very important role in your life and you're going to be listening a lot more and intend to be IN-joy.  

Do something fun, be playful. Invite in your own Divine Spirit to come a play for a while. Its summer time after all.....

Knowing yourself is the the beginning of all wisdom.

A ritual for giving thanks, and calling in more love in my life.

Dedicate your ritual to all the amazing guidance in your life, the known and the unknown.

Are you ready to make the shift?

You may find yourself asking "Where do I start? How do I begin?" Begin with answering the call within, listening to the voice of your Inner Guidance.

Fear of change is normal, but there are ways to learn to overcome your fears and start acting on the guidance within that will lead you to your happiest life and natural way of being in the world.

Do you realize there are only 6 months left in 2015?

This is the year you do something amazing.

Go from mundane and miserable to extraordinary and liberating. 

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR DESTINY.

Where will you be in 2016?

Chloë Rain is a Spiritual Guide & Visionary. She is the the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

Chloë has had the pleasure of working with women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to self love, and experience greater fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and JOY in their lives, relationships, and finances.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and joy in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

Please feel free to share content freely from Explore Deeply™. However, please be courteous and link back to the original post, and credit Explore Deeply as well as the writer where applicable. I hope you find many resources here to serve you as you walk your path of purpose. Much love!