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Before you can heal the world, you must heal your anger

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There are so many different social movements coming into the media spotlight every year, each of them working towards a different agenda, and each of them working against other social movements. It is chaos. But in this chaos there is one commonality they all share: many are motivated by anger.

While it is certainly noble to wish to change the world for the better, the vast majority of would-be-change-makers are acting out of anger. And while it can be argued that anger is a natural response to the dire conditions of the day, it is important to understand that acting out of anger is most often highly counter-productive to the aim of improving one’s condition and position in life.

The best fighter is never angry.
— Lao Tzu

The great Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu understood this, and he knew that actions born of anger lead to further muddling of circumstances. He also understood that a truly effective warrior comes from a place of radical acceptance of what is, for this is the central message of Taoism.

In chapter 68 of the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu notes:

A good soldier is not violent.
A good fighter is not angry.
A good winner is not vengeful.
A good employer is humble.
This is known as the Virtue of not striving.
This is known as ability to deal with others.
This since ancient times has been known
as the ultimate unity with heaven.

From the Taoist perspective anger is seen as an expression of a conflict between the ego’s perception of the way things are and reality. It is resistance to embracing all things in whatever state they may appear to be in, which is a trap of self-absorption. It is the result of a failure to accept what is.

The following passage from Lao Tzu’s Hua Hu Ching explains this ‘departure’ from the way.

“Those who wish to embody the Tao should embrace all things. To embrace all things means first that one holds no anger or resistance toward any idea or thing, living or dead, formed or formless. Acceptance is the very essence of the Tao. To embrace all things means also that one rids oneself of any concept of separation; male and female, self and other, life and death. Division is contrary to the nature of the Tao. Foregoing antagonism and separation, one enters in the harmonious oneness of all things.

Every departure from the Tao contaminates one’s spirit. Anger is a departure, resistance a departure, self- absorption a departure.” — Lao Tzu in the Hua Hu Ching

Speaking to journalist Bill Moyers in the following passage, the great American mythologist and author Joseph Campbell tells a story about a Samurai warrior and anger:

JOSEPH CAMPBELL: I will participate in the game. It’s a wonderful, wonderful opera, except that it hurts. And that wonderful Irish saying, you know, “Is this a private fight, or can anybody get into it?” This is the way life is, and the hero is the one who can participate in it decently, in the way of nature, not in the way of personal rancor, revenge or anything of the kind.

Let me tell you one story here, of a samurai warrior, a Japanese warrior, who had the duty to avenge the murder of his overlord. And he actually, after some time, found and cornered the man who had murdered his overlord. And he was about to deal with him with his samurai sword, when this man in the corner, in the passion of terror, spat in his face. And the samurai sheathed the sword and walked away. Why did he do that?

BILL MOYERS: Why?

JOSEPH CAMPBELL: Because he was made angry, and if he had killed that man then, it would have been a personal act, of another kind of act, that’s not what he had come to do.” [Source]

You see, the world is an impersonal place inhabited by persons. None of us see eye-to-eye on everything, but all of us have the capacity to influence and shape our shared reality. When people, divided by ideas and propaganda, join forces in anger and lash out against the world, it only stokes chaos and resentment, pushing things further out of balance.

Therefore, it is essential to resolve the anger within yourself before attempting to resolve some external circumstance which brings out the angry version of you, which is the version of you least capable of improving anything, as psychologist and scholar Jordan Peterson describes:

“There’s the angry you, and you know, you all come in contact with the angry you. It’s rather rigid. That’s the first thing you might say about it. It’s impulsive and short-term. It doesn’t think much about the past, unless it’s bad things about whoever you’re angry at, in which case it thinks about them a lot. It’s not too concerned with long-term future consequences, and mostly it wants to be right.” — Jordan Peterson

The simple but powerful notion of overcoming your anger in order to be a true change-make is also elucidated by the Dalai Lama in a short quote:

“The true hero is one who conquers his own anger and hatred.” — The Dalai Lama


Dylan Charles is the editor of Waking Times and co-host of Redesigning Reality, both dedicated to ideas of personal transformation, societal awakening, and planetary renewal. His personal journey is deeply inspired by shamanic plant medicines and the arts of Kung Fu, Qi Gong and Yoga. After seven years of living in Costa Rica, he now lives in the Blue Ridge Mountains, where he practices Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and enjoys spending time with family. He has written hundreds of articles, reaching and inspiring millions of people around the world.

This article (Lao Tzu and Others on Why You Must Fix Your Anger Before Trying to Fix the World) was originally created and published by Waking Times and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to DylanCharles and WakingTimes.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

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Chloë has had the pleasure of working with women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to self love, and experience greater fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and JOY in their lives, relationships, and finances.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and joy in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

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Literally jumping for joy in Peru! Join me here this fall. Sacred journey to Cusco & Machu Picchu.

She’s turning her life into something sacred: Each breath, a new birth. Each moment, a new chance. She bows her head, gathers her dreams from a pure, deep stream and stretches her arms towards the sky.
— Monique Duval

Happiness, joy, truly enjoying life, these aren't topics I take lightly, nor am I flippant about the real life dark places that we find ourselves in, even after doing all the right things, following all the rules, and "working on ourselves"...

I had battled with fairly serious depression for over 30 years, and as a young person suicide had been a daily consideration. As I aged, things became tolerable, but not necessarily better. Then again, in my mid thirties I began to seriously question if I had a reason to keep living. 

I wondered why anyone would bother to keep going when it seemed life never really got any better, and most of my experiences had only deepened my sadness and loneliness, so what the fuck was the point?

Depression is not an inconvenience, it's not something that leaves over night after you read a good book.

It is also not an illness you have to live with your entire life. It is possible to heal from depression and anxiety without medication.

I started with simple things, the only things I knew to do that would keep me from my self destructive behaviors. 

I started spending any free time I had in nature.  I started sheltering myself from people who meant well, but ultimately didn't know what was best for my well-being.

I devoured books about real people who had recovered from great challenges and were now leading extraordinary lives.

I started taking risks, I started listening to my heart as it started speaking up.

As the beauty and true abundance of nature started to seep into my bones and cleanse me of my toxic thoughts, the Universe began to dialogue with me... in ways I'd never heard spoken before, and messages I'd never received... and I LISTENED.

When you find yourself thinking there must be more to life than this and longing to experience something greater in life, then most likely you are ready to begin exploring deeply your own purpose for existence. When you begin to explore deeply, you learn to uncover your true power and gifts, and are able to find meaning in your past failures.  This is when  you will come to believe in yourself again and that is when you become powerful beyond belief.

I'm sharing all of this with you with the intention that I may offer a message of HOPE.

HOPE, that you too, can find your way, WILL FIND YOUR WAY to happiness and joy. That it is possible to come to terms with the "failures" of your life, and begin to see that some of the heartbreak was in service to your heart opening.

It was a fated journey to Cusco Peru and Machu Picchu that ultimately helped me heal from my long standing depression, fully and completely once and for all. The ancient spiritual energies of the land of Peru and the medicine I received there helped save my life and led me to discover my true purpose and gave me a reason for living.

My entire existence is now dedicated to the revolution of the human spirit. 

My "work" is an extension of who I am BEing, and everything I do is an expression of living life the best I know how, and then learning to open to receive more joy.

If you are feeling called to experience something unlike anything you've ever experienced before, please join me this fall in Peru for a Spiritual Pilgrimage that will undoubtedly change your life.

You can experience the mystical world of living energy and touch the magic of the place first hand, October 28th! You may learn more about the journey here. I will be sharing my intimate knowledge with you of the ancient wisdom of the Andean Spiritual cosmology and how this medicine helped me to discover my life purpose in life and heal from depression.

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Sitting in sacred Ceremony for clear vision on your life path

Below are photographs of my first initiation in Peru where I was told the "The Mountains are speaking to You." and I understood something about my life I had never truly grasped before. The Incas call the spirit of the mountains Apu, and consider the Apu to be the most powerful of all Nature Spirits; the mountains remain extremely sacred in the Andean regions of modern Peru.

Some of these pictures are difficult for me to share because I can see the weight of depression and illness on my face and my body. But I know that after these pictures were taken, not only did my experiences help me to heal from depression, but also helped me heal from an autoimmune disease and severe anxiety issues. I look and feel better now than I ever did in my 20s or 30s!

Jumping for joy in Peru!


As you turn inward and fall in love with the truth of who you really are, you become whole despite the brokenness.
— Chloë Rain
Chloë Rain is a Spiritual Guide & Visionary. She is the the Founder of Explore Deeply and the Explore Deeply Movement.

Chloë has had the pleasure of working with women and men all over the globe to learn to source their inner power, deepen their relationship to self love, and experience greater fulfillment, so they can enjoy the happiness they have always wanted, and have confidence and JOY in their lives, relationships, and finances.

Many of her clients find that their relationships and careers shift dramatically in new and exciting ways after doing this work, creating freedom and joy in their personal and professional lives. To find out more about working with Chloë go → here.

Please feel free to share content freely from Explore Deeply™. However, please be courteous and link back to the original post, and credit Explore Deeply as well as the writer where applicable. I hope you find many resources here to serve you as you walk your path of purpose. Much love!